Who is the male equivalent of any curvy female celebrity/famous actress lauded for her good looks and for being sexually attractive who isn’t a comedian/clown? There aren’t any plump male sex symbols who aren’t really considered attractive for other qualities. You’re cut and fit or you are funny or a genius or whatever it’s as simple as that. Our society just totally denies that men can have any sort of physical variety.
I’m not saying women don’t face huge pressures to conform to a body standard, but at least that standard has begun to broaden. Men actually don’t have that at all.
The issue is slightly variable among men who have sex with men, in that there is a subculture which values chunky guys. But beyond this fairly niche taste the range of culturally valued male physical archetypes in maybe even narrower than that in wider society.
You either conform to these body expectations or you are invisible.
Everything in this is true…except maybe the part about asking if someone’s a top or a bottom. I find that vers guys normally object to this question, which makes sense, and OF COURSE it shouldn’t be one of the first things you ask someone, but it’s gotta be asked at some point or you’re really just wasting your time unless you just want to be friends or you’re vers.